You know those couples’ therapy sessions where both sides technically want the same thing — but somehow still speak completely different languages?
That’s kind of what it’s like between families and the nannies or sitters they hire.

At the heart of it, everyone’s after the same goal: happy, safe, well-cared-for kids and a smooth-running household. But… the “wish list” on each side can look very different. And sometimes, the unspoken truths are the juiciest part.

So today, we’re pulling back the curtain. Here’s what families really want from their childcare provider — and what nannies/sitters secretly wish they could say (but usually don’t).

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What Families Really Want from a Nanny or Sitter

1. Reliability (a.k.a. Don’t Vanish Like Cinderella at Midnight)

 

 

Parents dream of someone they can count on — no last-minute ghosting, no creative excuses, no “Oh, was that today?” texts. In family language, reliability translates to peace of mind.

 

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2. Safety First (Yes, You Will Become a Walking First Aid Kit)

 

Families want to know you’ve got the skills and instincts to keep little ones safe, whether it’s basic CPR or just knowing which chair the toddler will try to climb like it’s Everest.

 

 

 

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3. Engagement (No Couch Potato Energy)

 

 

Parents are looking for someone who actually connects — reads the stories, builds the blanket forts, counts the stars at night. In short: someone who turns “childcare” into “child care.”

 

 

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4. Communication (The Right Amount, Please)

 

 

They want to know what’s going on… but not in minute-by-minute, diaper-by-diaper detail. Think: highlight reel, not livestream.

 

 

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5. A Good Fit for the Family Vibe

 

 

Even the most skilled caregiver won’t be a match if the family is vegan and you bring bacon sandwiches, or if the dog thinks he’s your new lap buddy and you’re allergic. Alignment matters.

 

 

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What Nannies/Sitters Wish They Could Say (But Usually Don’t)

1. “We’re Humans, Not Magical Mary Poppins Clones”

Yes, we can multitask. No, we can’t materialize extra arms. Cooking, tutoring, cleaning, keeping a toddler from coloring the cat… we try, but we do still operate within the laws of physics.

 

 

 

 

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2. “Clear Instructions Make Everyone’s Life Easier”

 

 

“Just do whatever” is a trap. Give us your rules, your routines, your no-go zones. That way we can be on your team — not accidentally starting a toddler rebellion.

 

 

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3. “Consistency Is Gold”

 

If screen time is outlawed on Monday but encouraged on Tuesday, don’t be surprised when little Timmy’s new favorite hobby is negotiating terms.

 

 

 

 

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4. “A Little Appreciation Goes a Long Way”

 

 

We’re not chasing gold stars, but a “Thanks, you’re amazing” can turn a long day into a good one. (Bonus points if there’s coffee involved.)

 

 

 

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5. “We Care Too — A Lot”

 

 

We don’t clock out mentally when we walk out the door. We wonder how the science project went, hope the cough cleared up, and miss the kids when we don’t see them for a while.

 

 

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The Sweet Spot: Meeting in the Middle

When you strip away the unspoken stuff, it’s simple:

• Families want someone they can trust and rely on.
• Nannies and sitters want to be valued and respected.

It’s not about finding a mythical unicorn caregiver — it’s about building a great team for the parenting squad.

That means…

• Clear expectations.
• Honest, respectful conversations.
• Mutual flexibility (because life happens).
• Remembering that everyone here is in it for the same reason: to give kids the best care possible.

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Final Thought

When families and caregivers meet in the middle, magic really does happen — just without the bottomless carpet bag and flying umbrella. At Capitol Park Nannies, we’re all about creating those matches where everyone feels supported, respected, and happy to show up every day.

Because when the relationship works, the kids thrive — and isn’t that the point?

Here is a little something to help – your own little Wishlist…